Hello Asian world!

I am starting this blog and hoping to update it weekly.  What prompted this is I finally read Amy Chua’s The Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mom.  While I think she was definitely “over the top” in many ways, I also believe all the media coverage and news articles such as the Wall Street Journal‘s “Why Chinese Mothers are Better” created controversy mostly to help her market her book.  But any of us who take our own parenting seriously must think about our parenting techniques.  As a Christian, I hope that much of this comes from the Bible and not just from Asian cultural values.

Yet, I do know lots of Tiger Moms (and Dads).  And I also see the results, many a lot more like Lulu than Sophia or worse; people struggling to please their parents and losing their own identity in the process . So I hope to touch upon some of Amy’s principles and compare them to Scriptures and my own experiences as well as talk about the difficulties that come in raising kids ins a host culture (e.g.America) so different than their parents’ home culture (e.g. China or other Asian countries).

Would love to hear your thoughts.

Questions to ponder:

  • Is getting straight A’s the main goal for our children?
  • Does this make us the model minority?

About casianmom

I am a Christian Asian mom who raised and still influences :) two children. I was born in the US with overseas-born Asian parents. I write about parenting, culture, and life and how culture affects our walk with God and vice versa..I welcome your comments sharing your experiences or those of your friends.
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1 Response to Hello Asian world!

  1. Another Christian Asian Mom says:

    My goal for my kids is to honor God in their lives. I will share some instances when they were growing up. As you know Jessica was very involved in gymnastics when growing up, four days of the week, she practiced from 4-8 pm and Saturday half day. In an interview she did, she mentioned that if she felt it was too much, she could walk away from gymnastics and her parents would support that, while a teammate of hers was cursing her mom for putting on the pressure that she had to do well in gymnastics in order to get a scholarship to college. Jessica never missed church except when she had to compete and God gave her a Christian coach that let her have a short practice on Friday evenings so she could attend youth group at church. She attended church and Bible study groups in college. One week close to exam time, she and the pastor were the only ones who showed up for Bible study. Gymnastics gave her the discipline, but she knew God is first in her life.
    For Linda, even though she was in the highly talented program all thru school, she was very involved in youth group, worship singing practice, etc. Once I asked her why somebody else was so drowned in school work and she was not, but still made good grades, and she told me that she did not let academic achievement get into her head. She got a master’s degree from Stanford and is teaching in an inner city high school where she makes a difference in kids’ lives. Before that, we had a conversation about why with her degree from Stanford she would not look for some high-paying job and help others in other ways, but God has called her to teaching, and I have to honor that. As Christian moms, we have a different value system, and we have to be careful not to push our children to something they don’t want. We need to live authentic lives, and our children will see our lives reflect Christ. Then they will also lead a Christ-centered life. They still need our prayers — even though they are adults, they are still our kids.

    ~ Anonymous (names have been changed)

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