Asian American Children and their Tiger Parents

I find it interesting that so many Asian American parents (both born here and overseas) do not consider themeselves tiger parents, but I think their children beg to differ.


I am doing research on this subject and really want to hear your thoughts, Asian youth about your tiger mom and/or dad. You can set up an anonymous email using or or and enter your honest thoughts. No profanity please.

Please share how your parents treated you growing up — the good, the bad, and the ugly — too much academic pressure, plastic covers on chairs and lampshades, name calling, comparison to other smart or accomplished siblings or friends’ children, etc.


Thanks for sharing!


About casianmom

I am a Christian Asian mom who raised and still influences :) two children. I was born in the US with overseas-born Asian parents. I write about parenting, culture, and life and how culture affects our walk with God and vice versa..I welcome your comments sharing your experiences or those of your friends.
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2 Responses to Asian American Children and their Tiger Parents

  1. I was sheltered from American friends as much as possible until I realized I just could do it because I could. I rebelled very badly since sophomore year in high school up until I started college and got my shit together.

    My family always made sure I stayed away from my white friends and stayed away from the bad Lao kids too. I’ve been called stupid, a whore/slut, everything! You name it. I’m the oldest of four children but my brother (only 11 months younger) gets away with everything I did and I’m the only college-graduated, mind you.

    It’s hard but our relationship is much better now that I’ve become a mom so that’s great. I still get those verbal issues where I’m not doing what I’m supposed to do. I’m getting a lot of brunt for not going back to work full-time because you know, moms should be working no matter what because that’s what she did. *le sigh*

    • casianmom says:

      It’s not easy being an Asian American parent (or child). May I suggest some books you may want to read — I find that is The Gift of the Blessing (Gary Smalley and John Trent) and another one is The Tribute (Dennis Rainey). These help you with parent/child relationships especially when the parent doesn’t always encourage the “child.”

      I also just started one that also looks insightful…
      Forgiving Your Parents, Forgiving Yourself by Dr. David Stoop. Since I just began, it is hard to give a recommendation yet. I’ll let you know…

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