A well-respected teacher, leader, pastor has been living with a hidden sin of adultery that came to light this week when he announced his resignation. I knew him, not up close and personal, but as a teacher, a preacher; someone who shared hard lessons and challenged us to walk the Christian walk. He was a man I admired him very much, and God has used him mightily to build His Kingdom. So this announcement has astounded the entire local community.
How should we respond?
With the attitude that there but for the grace of God go I, my friend. With more than double the years of marriage that this man has, I am not foolish enough to think this could not happen to me or my marriage.
With broken hearts. Pray for his redemption, his family, for healing and God’s comfort and strength through these difficult days ahead.
Without judgment. God will judge. Romans 14:4 “Who are you to judge the servant of another? To his own master he stands or falls; and he will stand, for the Lord is able to make him stand.”
Without gossip. Gossip is talking about people when you are neither part of the problem or the solution. In as much as this affects an extremely large community of believers, there will be talk. But, we should not speculate and must avoid gossip.
With prayers for him, his family and the church he left behind. When one man sins, it is not just he is hurt… it hurts the entire body of Christ.
With resolve to strengthen my own marriage and other close relationships. Making sure I have mentors and accountability partners who are not afraid to ask tough questions and also be unconditional in their love towards us as Christ demonstrated to the world.
With realization that we are in a spiritual battle. It is not flesh and blood, but the rulers, principalities and the evil of the prince of this world. Know that Satan desires us to fall, to fail, to become ineffective. Satanic worshippers are praying fervently for the demise of Christian marriages, especially those who lead or serve in full-time Christian ministry. Do we pray as regularly for our Christian marriages to thrive and succeed?
Our battle is not our own to fight alone. We have a God who has overcome the world. This knowledge should give us hope in times of despair and sorrow.
What about you — do you think this could ever happen to you?
1 Corinthians 10:12 “Therefore let him who thinks he stands take heed that he does not fall.”
Do you have an accountability partner or mentor — can they ask you some tough questions and be brutally honest? Will they notice if you are deceptive and hiding something from them?
“Faithful are the wounds of a friend, But deceitful are the kisses of an enemy.” Proverbs 27:6
Let’s be obedient by assembling together in community with other Christians. Hebrews 10:25 “not forsaking our own assembling together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another; and all the more as you see the day drawing near.”
What can you do starting today so you do not negatively influence the community around you?